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16 THE ORIGINAL RELOCATION GUIDE — CAPE FEAR NC | VOLUME 14—ISSUE 1 MOVING TIPS & TRICKS Everyone gets overwhelmed at the thought of moving. Very few of us have an appreciation for relocating, whether it's across town or across the country. Sarah and Jim lived in the Midwest and were ap- proaching retirement age. Having traveled to the Caroli- nas many times over the years for vacations and to visit family, they both fell in love with "the South." When the time came to make the final decision, there was no other choice as to "where" to retire, but leaving the place they'd called home for most of their lives proved harder than either had anticipated. After six months from the initial move they still had two houses and though the couple had relocated and established residence, they were still finding themselves making frequent trips back to the Midwest to pack a few more "treasures"— while at the same time paying for a storage unit at the new location in which to store them. The point is our homes very easily become part of who we are and even though we decide it's time to move on, taking all of that "home" with you is not very practical nor, most of the time, possible. Plus the stress of trying to take it all with you is not healthy and takes a great deal of fun and excitement away from the new adventures that lay ahead in the new location! Does a stress-free move really exist? Let's see… First look at the big picture. The well-worn phrase "the more things change, the more they stay the same" definitely applies to moving. Yes, everything is new and different — people, places, your new home — but soon you realize "that's okay". It's part of the adventure. If you wanted exactly the same thing you would have never moved in the first place! You will miss your old friends, but you will make new ones. You will miss your favor- ite diner, but you'll find that quaint little mom and pop café just down the road. Yes, you knew your old home like the back of your hand. You could roll out of bed in the middle of the night, stagger blindly to the bathroom and never stub your toe on a coffee table without even turning on a light. But your new home will have its own character and things you will learn to love – that view of the mountains from the front porch, or sitting in the yard on a summer evening and being able to see the stars and hear the crickets. See the big picture and realize that all of this can be, and is, a positive thing! Marla Cilley- "The FlyLady," founder of the popu- lar website, is the best-selling author of "Sink Reflections," and co-author of the New York Time's best-seller "Body Clutter." I talked with the "FlyLa- dy" from her Brevard, North Carolina home from which, for over 17 years, she has mentored folks on subjects like stress-free moving. Through her daily emails and web site, she offers de-cluttering and organization advice and tips to over half a million subscribers in 92 countries, so she must be getting something right! Cilley teaches her inquirers to "baby step" through the process of moving. That's right, "baby step." According to the "FlyLady" you have to break everything in the move down into smaller parts so that you do not get overwhelmed. Cilley says to remember that many times in relocating you're going from a larger home where you began your married life and raised a family to a down-sized smaller home for just two. According to Cilley, "the problem is you can't take everything from a 4-bedroom home to a 2-bedroom condo at the beach or mountain cabin. Some- things just can't go!" "The real problem at moving time comes with what to do with keepsakes and items of sentimental value." Cil- ley's cardinal rules for dealing with not only keepsakes, but just about any item in your home are, before you pack it, ask yourself: 1. Do I love it? 2. Do I have a place for it? 3. Where is that place? It sounds simple, but you would be surprised how many "treasures" or "must-haves" this eliminates from the mov- ing van, saving you time, money and stress! Also, utilizing a neutral friend or accountability partner to help "sort your life" will greatly improve the process. What to do with the items you decide not to take with you? Again I defer to the "FlyLady." "Bless someone else with them," Cilley added. "If a fam- ily member has always wanted grandma's cupboard, give it her – she probably really loves it!" Other ideas include donating to charities, neighbors, or even selling (if there's time and it doesn't increase your stress level). Above all, don't get overwhelmed – 15 minutes at a time can make a big difference in any job if you have some guidelines that are simple and you don't try to do everything at once. [] Handle Your Move With Care BY STUART JAMES

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